Rude? So whats the flaw here, my honesty?
Why should I pretend to do the impossible just because other people like hearing about themselves?
My perspective is the only one I have 100% authority to discuss.
I will not perpetuate the illusion of selfless action just because you think “honesty” and self interest are rude.
I debate people not to try and change them but to get them to drag positions out of me, I work best in concert with another mind.
Think fencing, it sucks versus a tree.