In regard to the following clip.

On stumble there has been some doubt expressed about this video. One guy in particular said: “Euhm… is that really how it works? If a girl thinks something is normal it turns automatically in an obligation???”

Let me tell you yeah that’s EXACTLY how it works. I don’t know about you but every city I’ve been to pretty much had a dress code for girls. In smaller towns and suburbs especially. Around here it’s the tank top, showing bra, and short shorts. To think this kind of media inspired homogeneity does not extend to their sex lives is asinine self delusion.

Now I realize my life is hardly a representative sample but I lived though my late teens in my own home with drug dealers (who were also very good people thank you very much) as roommates, so I know a little something about people screwing each other. And let me tell you, monkey see, monkey do. ESPECIALLY when it comes to sex since as this brilliant woman points out porn is de facto sex ed.

What you end up with is face sucking, (the TV substitute for sex evolved from the practice of mother’s spitting into infant/toddler mouth) and the “hardcore formula” as anyone who has seen more than two vanilla hetro pornos will immediately recognize. (Oral, oral, missionary, doggy, money.) Oftentimes prefaced by watching the very porn under discussion, almost like a (literal) fucking cheat sheet.

Her position is closely related to what I was speaking of in this post. http://underlore.com/TBA/?p=781 “The Myth of Romantic Pr0n”

And I think some romantic porn for men with compassion is just the ticket, and I don’t mean sycophantic female sex object permission seeking worship, we already have plenty of that, but some genuine loving fantasy for men that keep the face spraying to a minimum.

And she’s also absolutely right about this shit changing the world. I wonder how she’d feel about my solutions. http://underlore.com/TBA/?p=406 “The Solution”
http://underlore.com/TBA/?p=663 “Disruptive Technologies: What can I do?”